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Beth is a Co-Founder and Vice Chairman with The Handel Group®.
Beth has over 25 years of experience motivating high potential individual and teams as an expert corporate coach. Beth is an engaging and powerful public speaker whose focus is on cultivating change and implementing leadership at public and private organizations. She works with C suite teams, individually with CEO’s, and with executive management teams to deliver strong results in areas such as increased sales, aligning visions, and integrating previously “warring” divisions. Beth’s ability to listen and accurately perceive the issues facing an organization gives her the unique skill of identifying obstacles and then overcoming them to enable companies to sign multi-million dollar contracts in short timeframes. Beth works with recognized business leaders privately and confidentially to help build honest corporate cultures within their companies ultimately enhancing their ability to lead their organizations to great success. Her ability to evolve executives to higher performance and enhance corporate cultures has enabled her to bring about exponential financial growth. This method of corporate leadership development is her legacy.
Beth started her career as a staff member at one of the largest personal development companies in the country, later taking on expanded full-time roles as senior trainer, corporate manager, and international program leader. In her 15 years with that company, Beth led personal development seminars to more than 50,000 people globally. Over the next eight years, Beth honed her craft as a senior management consultant at a California-based consulting firm, working primarily with public companies facing integration challenges. As head of sales, she, along with her team, produced the highest annual sales volume in the 18-year history of the firm.
Beth has worked directly as a Corporate Coach or Public Speaker at the following companies:
The New York Times
MSLO (Martha Stewart Living)
Advance Auto Parts
Vogue Magazine (publishing side)
PVH (Philip Van Heusen)
Tiffany's Corporate Human Resource Team
NY Soho House Human Resource Team
Mediabrands (Initiative, MAP, Universal McCann, Orion Trading)
Beth has been featured as an Executive Coach on businessweek.com where she wrote articles and appeared in educational videos, discussed topics that related to leadership development, organizational integrity, and other corporate issues. She currently blogs for the Huffington Post.
Beth has a BFA from New York University and lives in Connecticut with her daughter Max.
Ever notice the areas of your life where you’re happy, proud & effective? You get things done, easily, no hassles.
You pick up your kid on time! You get to the gym every morning! You eat well! Its automatic! But then there are other areas of your life where you’re anything BUT happy. No pride and no effectiveness.
I bet I know what’s happening with you, you’re not keeping your PROMISES!
You told yourself you’d LOSE 15lbs but you don’t go to the gym, broken promise. You swore you’d spend more time with your kid but work got crazy, broken promise. The missing link between keeping promises and not keeping them is simply commitment. Commitment is the glue that makes a promise stick.
The CONSEQUENCES associated with not keeping our promises aren’t immediate so we choose to ignore them most of the time.
If you gained 10lbs immediately every time you broke your diet chances are you would think differently about breaking that promise to yourself.
If I told you your kid was gonna die if you smoked one more cigarette you’d stop smoking!
SO HOW DO YOU KEEP PROMISES WHERE YOU ARE BEING A CHICKEN OR A BRAT?
Consequences! Consequences are a way to self regulate. They bring awareness to broken promises NOT punishment!
You need to INVENT effective consequences that will keep you aware of your promises.
EXAMPLES OF CONSEQUENCES
- Throwing money to the street, literally.
- Buy coffee or a subway ticket for a stranger
- Confess to someone how you really feel
- Give up one of your favorite vices; no liquor for every time you don’t keep a promise
- Adding time to cardio
List your promises and create your consequences, then have the courage to take responsibility for all your actions!!!
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You may believe that your personality is yours alone. But the truth is, the traits that make up you are an amalgam of everything you’ve ever heard, learned, witnessed and endured from your parents or stepparents—the good stuff…and the flaws.
“Oh, great,” you may think. “Another thing to blame my mother for.” But this isn’t about blaming. It’s about using what you know about your parents to find out more about yourself. Because the only way to avoid reliving your parents’ stuff over and over and be the person you want to be is to understand your personality.
You may think you’re nothing like your neurotic, rigid, flaky, fill-in-the-blank-here parents. But there is no getting around your having their issues—you just have your own version of those issues.
So instead of rehashing your parents’ flaws, you’re going to compare them to what you do—and evolve yourself.
This assignment will help you know yourself better:
1) Make a list of your parents’ positive traits.
2) Make a list of their negative traits.
3) For each and every negative trait, explain how this trait plays out in you. (Truly, the apple doesn’t fall far from the tree.)
For instance, my mom would rather be with her two English bulldogs than her kids or grandchildren. My issue is that I'll pick work over playing with my daughter. That sucks!
The bottom line: Once you understand your lineage, you can be accountable for your personality, for who you are. And once you’re accountable, you can evolve for the better. To find out how to do that, be sure to listen to my show HERE.
It takes a brave soul to have a hard conversation. But when you get up the courage to say what you need to say, and you do it well, these talks almost never go badly. The three keys:
First, frame the conversation. You can’t just go up to the person you’re mad at and say, “Hey, why didn’t you give me credit in that meeting?!”
Instead, say what’s really there for you, your truth, what your ultimate goal is.
Try: I’m committed to our project but I’ve noticed that things aren’t going as smoothly as they could. I’ve wanted to talk about it but have been nervous to bring it up. Are you okay if I do?” By admitting that you’re nervous, and asking for permission to proceed, you’re immediately ensuring that your coworker doesn’t end up on the defensive.
Next, assume that you have no idea what your coworker is thinking. (If you go in there saying, “I know you’re jealous,” you’re dead.) A better strategy: Say, “I’m not sure this is true but this is how I see things. What do you think?”
Third, whatever they say, don’t argue. Your coworker has her truth and you have yours. If her truth surprises you, try responding with, “I’m so sorry. That’s not what I intended.” Because truth is relative and when you can respect your differences and let your own assumptions go, you’re free to really listen.
Finally, if you just can’t give up your belief—the thing you swear is the truth—whether it’s that the person you’re approaching is a jerk, jealous, or whatever—skip the conversation. It won’t go well. Work on yourself, first.
For more on how to handle tough discussions, including what to do if you’re the boss (because believe me, your employees won’t come to you, even if you say you have an open-door-policy), be sure to listen to my show RIGHT HERE!).